Monday, August 30, 2010

what now?

As frum from birth girls we are raised to serve a better purpose. Everything we do is for the ultimate purpose of serving God. We learn this as children and know that as adults we will do so by supporting our husbands and sons in their learning and help raise the next generation of righteous jews. Yet as we reached our twenties and then thirties for many of us this future never evolved into the present. No husband to send out to his chavrusa, no children to say modeh ani with. Initially we found other ways to serve our creator- chesed and tefila became our methods and we convinced ourselves that this was our role. Yet years into this we find that it is not enough. Sure we are still living as torah Jews but feel there must be more. God could not have sent us here just to wait it out. We are supposed to pass it on, leave a legacy. And more and more single girls seem to be questioning… what now?


  1. The world seems very black and white in Yeshiva. Then you grow up. I'm a 25 year old single frum man. The more I see and learn, the more I start to believe it's the blind leading the blind. The current frum system is an anachronism in today's day and age. We need to adapt. Like the Chassidim did in their day, and the Yekkes did in theirs, we need a change.
    Keep strong, and keep an open mind. We're in this together. Ksiva Vchasima tova.