Sunday, August 29, 2010


One of the things that frustrates me most about the frum people is their expectation of how life will turn out. Though we claim everything is up to Hashem, we still expect He will do what makes sense to us. Walking with 2 women on shabbos one exclaimed to the other "you’ll probably make a chassunah soon". Yes, there is a good chance that this 19 year old beauty in discussion will be indeed be married within months. But there is always the hopefully slim chance that she will not be. This also comes up when working with a wedding party. Many times comments are made concerning who’s next, in reference to those still years away from dating. They take age order into account and if a brother is only a couple of years older than the girl it is assumed she will go before him, but possibly the same year. When these comments are made I pray that they not have to learn the hard way that life does not always turn out the way we assume it will.


  1. I understand some way. You want people to know that real life isn't a fairy tale and things don't always go the way you wanted or expected. But on the other hand...let these people hold on to that innocence a little longer. What will they gain by being worried about it? There's a chance that things will go easily for them, so the worry will have then been for naught. Actually, no matter what happens, worry is useless. So let them hold on to the blissful innocence just a bit longer...cuz real life does hit most people, at one point or the other.

  2. you totally got it! thanks for reading.